Family

Family

The period of nine months hold a very peculiar importance in human life. It is the time period required for the birth of new human life. It is very strange thing of my life that at the age of 50, I am going under this magical experience and feeling of these nine months. No dear, neither I am a woman nor is my wife going through the stage of pregnancy. I am talking about the maturity growth of writer present within me due to nine month long close association between me and ibibo blogs.[Since January 5th to September 21st ]. It was a child game/ Child play to start with at ibibo as neither the participant nor the administration were serious about the quality aspect every thing was just quantity and being a teacher I was with variety of information hence I was able to earn very handsomely. It was some where in the start of May that I realized that my activities there at ibibo must be more purposeful but the quantity dominance was still hiding and making it hard to locate quality blog posts in the forest of quantity even for myself. For a retired person, with a limited economic earning, attraction of earning proved winner over the satisfaction of purposeful writing. Towards the end of August, ibibo administration went under the feeling, which was realized by me in the month of May and decided to put a break on quantity. It is quite possible that administration was forced to do so because of the difficulties they might be facing from the unexpected growth of portal, the number of participant was on tremendous growth and quantity race [a few people were posting 100 to 200 posts daily] with no attention on quality was making it hard for administration to cope with the pressure. Any way in the ninth month of existence glimpse of birth of new life become visible at ibibo blogs and most significantly an instant positive response was shown by more than 50% of the bloggers active, It was indication that I was not alone but with few thousands others thinking on same lines. It can be said unfortunate only, that when the bloggers become aware of importance of quality, there were a very bright and high chances for ibibo to become largest quality based Indian blogging platform, all of sudden administration came forward to withdraw the monetary motivation, as know no one can earn even a single naya paisa [penny] by blogging at ibibo. This action of administration can only compare with increasing trend in India of killing the girl child before the birth as this trend is bound to produce social imbalance so is this going action will be held responsible for the pre mature death of budding Indian bloggers.

You might be wondering what all this has to do with the title of the blog? It was a hectic daily schedule with ibibo which stopped all of sudden and I am getting more time for television broadcasts. Yesterday while one of so called reality show; I come across words “It will be hard to believe for all us that this couple is no more part of our family”. In fact it has tempted to write me on this topic Family.

Human being is a complete and individual identity but needs a social life for growing in totality hence need of marriage was felt and practiced in the early years of human history. The tradition of making permanent relations started with marriage was extended in to bunching of human beings related with each other resulted into construction of family. In the initial stages relatives from both sides of a human were the part of family and even Indian philosophy of life was extended to the principle of “Humanity is family” but due to this or that reasons the circle of family started to shrink and families started to be limited to parents, children and grand children only. At present in India family is in this format where as in the most of European and western countries it is showing growing trends of being limited to husband, wife and kids of teen age.
The question is why one need to be a part of a family? If we look into basic of formation of family, It will not be hard to find fact that family is the expression of desire for social living after all even being a complete identity human beings are social animals. The basic concept which works as foundation stone in the construction of family is adjustment. I wish to say that adjustments are the key factor for the co-existence of human beings and one has to scarify some of personal interest, choices and priorities for being part of social life or family. One has to learn the art of respecting emotions of others and accommodating them with the own desires, this is the adjustment and constructs the base for the formation of family.
I am concluding this with a thought, Keep apart the reasons of shrinking of families, and remember one thing one has to make adjustments for the social life. Do keep it in your mind if you have to make adjustments for social life and creating new but unnatural families than why you are hesitating to apply the same adjustments with those who are natural part of your family?