Love

Love

If, I have been asked to give the most mysterious but meaningful single word from the dictionary I will surely opt the word composed of four alphabets not because of there are four directions of the world and this word is composed of four alphabets representing the totality of the world but because of the fact that, this word is the speechless emotion of human life and never is slave of words for its expression. The word I am talking about is love. We often come across and use phrase "Love is Life or Life is Love" but a few days back I read some where a strange question "What is Love?"

Really it is hard to give the word format for the love, though love is an emotion and often means the intense liking, but like the other emotions of human life we can't choose the definite words to define love in its totality and true meaning. We love our parents, kids, friends and even our pets does we wish to say we are with the same emotion for each and everything, with reference to which we pronounce the word Love? Surely our response to this question will not be a positive one just because we know though we are using the single and same word love but our emotional feelings are at the different levels of liking. In the broad sense we can say love is, liking but as this can't be the universally accepted one hence I tried to find out sounds for each alphabet of love in the word ocean dictionary and my search ends with
L = Learning
O = Others
V= Valuing
E = Emotions
The aggregative meaning will be like this Love is the art of learning the method of valuing emotions of others. This might have satisfied at least to me but as the word love is also associated with one of the most important aspect of life called marriage hence my thrust was at the end of non fulfillment.

The word love is so intensely and closely associated with marriage that not only many find it essential, the existence of love for the marriage, but also we have two most popular types of marriages, arrange marriage and love marriage. It is hard to believe that applications for the divorce are in higher numbers from the couples who had opted for the love marriage. If the love was the deciding factor for making them to live together and go for the marriage then what happen to their love? Change is the characteristic of time not of the love hence what was bound to change was time and not the love. which changes with time is surely not love. If we look into human life it is not hard to find that love only has growing attributes, reduction or elopement are the meaning less terms for the love. Look at parents love towards the kids it goes on increasing with age of children. With my own experience, I can support the statement "Period after the twenty years of married life is truly expressive and under going the feeling of love". It doesn't means that in the time prior to this period love was not existing there, surely it was there though was coated under the layers of the physical wants. One thing I wish to say to younger generation try to differentiate your desire of spending time together from the love as your desire is bound to change with time where as love will go till your last breath on earth. This desire change will help you gain temporary but will force you to loose the constant one. The desire of living together will prompt for separation after some time but love will force you to live together even in the situations of unmatched interests and disliked habits.

I would like to conclude with love is the nectar of human life, which exist within our self and we can make its storage rich by learning the art of respecting and valuing emotions of others. Love is the bonding glue which forces us to keep our family life intact and live a good social life. Love is the prime attraction of human life. The most interesting thing is that human life is born from the love and goes on growing with love.

Divorce : Reasons

It is the real beauty of the blogging that some times you are forced to write on the topic, which is not in your schedule or about which you had never thought, presently under the influence of the same status I am writing this article. It all was started with " I wish to have divorce" and went on to " Divorce: Some Facts". Before coming to topic it will be helpful to know what is marriage and what is the importance of marriage in human life, after all what is the divorce, nothing but an extremist situation where we are forced to discontinue one of the most attractive relationship [marriage] of human life.
Reproduction is the key that keeps the species intact on the earth and among the livings only human beings are with the capacity of giving birth to young ones through out the years, where as for other livings, not only animals but also plants there is a specific breeding season, beside that human are social animals, hence to regularized and socialized the sexuality, among the human tradition of marriage was started since the early dawn of civilisation. Indian believe in rebirth hence here marriage is a relation that goes on for many births, even the europeans are also looks supporters of this thought as they also have a faith in the "Marriage are arranged in heaven". In our country physical relations are given laser importance but it is also fact that these are the first step for the spiritual and constant relations. it is often said sexuality is the first step of the staircase that will take you in the sky of spirituality. It is essential for salvation that crimination must be done by your marriage born son, this also emphasizes importance of marriage for human life. In the recent times some countries have started compulsory registration of marriage to keep the population under check and control. We Hindus are the believers of the fact that marriage is conjugation of two souls, who progressed side by side, helping each other , towards the salvation, the ultimate aim of human life, hence in our society divorce is an abuse word. Due to technical advancement and lowering of the morals many abuse words like the corruption are included in the human life dictionary , word divorce is also getting momentum for inclusion in this dictionary.
REASONS OF DIVORCE As per the laws of various countries,the following reasons for divorce might be considered sufficient grounds for the dissolution of a marriage: adultery, cruelty, abandonment, incurable insanity, felony conviction or incarceration,addiction to drugs or alcohol, and a consistent period of separation between a husband and wife. Where as if we go as per the views of the family legal experts, they enlist the following reasons for the divorce:poor communication, financial problems, lack of commitment, infidelity, and dramatic changes in individual priorities. Physical, emotional, mental, and substance abuses are also cited as reasons for divorce.
To me for divorce there is just one and one reason and that is lack of understanding and adjustment. Marriage is the union of two individuals, who were born and brought up in different social and family atmosphere, with a own vision to the relations in the human life, each of them have their own ambitions and here we need the tools of understanding and adjustment. We have to be alert in understanding the socio-family atmosphere of each others, so that we can create ample scope for the fulfillment of our ambitions, this adjustment is the only key for the success of marriage life, as this adjustment will allow us to know the importance of us for the each other. By applying these tools of understanding and adjustment we can keep divorce away from our life, in graveyard of the dictionary.